Separation and divorce are times of change, stress, and lots of decisions - joint decisions. By strengthening your decision-making skills, you can bring more stability to your own life and that of your children. Many of these decisions need to be made with a former spouse or partner - referred to in this class as your "co-parent" - who may have temporary or long-term difficulty in making reasonable decisions.
New Ways for Families is offered in three 60-minute sessions. You will focus onfour key decision-making skills, which can help you whether or not your co-parent is also using these skills. Ideally, these skills help you both make decisions out of court, such as in mediation. However, if you end up in court, learning and practicing these skills can be helpful in how you present your facts to a judge.
Four big skills that help when making a decision with another person are: 1.Moderate behaviours: This helps the other person to be less defensive. 2.Managed emotions: This helps you focus on solutions rather than just reacting. 3.Flexible thinking: This helps you come up with new ideas for future situations. 4.Checking yourself: This helps you remember to use these skills under stress.
To put these big skills into practice, the class focuses on four smaller skills that will become fairly easy to remember: 1. Communicating with BIFF responses (moderate behaviours) 2. Calming yourself with encouraging statements (managed emotions) 3. Making proposals and responding to proposals (flexible thinking) 4. Remembering to use the skills(checking yourself)
Using these skills in your life is up to you. That being said, while you are taking this class you are expected to participate in the writing exercises, as it is the most effective way of practicing these skills. You will not be required to share what you have written, but class volunteers help everyone learn. It's up to you whether you want to share your answers.
The class is based on made-up examples from common situations. You will not be asked to – nor allowed to – share your personal situation. The focus is on learning and practicing the skills using standard examples.
Pre-registration in this course is required. The total cost is $75 for all three sessions, and the Parent Workbook is included.
Please call us at (250) 386-4331 to register for the next course offering.